The Secret is Not in Trying to Win a Rigged Game, It's Walking Away From It
Political codependency escalating in this country. So many lost to the insane and rigged game of poltics. Lost to the political matrix once again.
I keep resorting to language from the psychology of addiction. Addicts and co-addicts so enmeshed in their dysfunctional dynamic that the capacity for sanity and empathy and recognition of a broader and real world is lost. And more and more they get sucked into the sick game, and pull those connected to them along ... down. So it is not just the frontline participants on the political, military and media front lines. The quicksand is big enough for more and more and more.
Bill Clinton said recently the Dems need more advertising. That is the answer. OY VEY!!!!! More game-playing by advertising to promote the toxic status quo of the Dems? I don't think so. Jon Stewart thinks a lot of it is about keeping the tone civil. That doesn't work with sociopaths, psychopaths, addicts, Jon. You play nice and they walk away with the store. And maybe even with the clothes that were on your back a second ago.
Melodie Beatty in her book Codependent No More claims that the secret of dealing with such a dynamic is not in trying to win. It is in "not playing." Detaching is a b*tch, though. And it has serious blowback. And serious frustration. Because one has to see and be strong enough to endure even more of the naked truth about just how many people are enthralled in denial, contributing to a broken system, and these denying people are conditioned to make the broken system move in its broken and destructive way.
So those willing to detach and call it ALL out become messengers ripe for ferocious targeting by the deniers hanging onto their denial for all they are worth. And the seeming guppies of denial turn to piranhas (I read that in an assertiveness book once, great metaphor) to protect the perpetrators who should be the targets of their rage. Freakshow anti-ethics. Or according to recovery psychology something called the Karpman Triangle. The perpetrator, rescuer, victim keep changing roles. We rescuers are demonized trying to save the citizenry against amoral Obama and Dems. Many of citizenry (Dems) leap forward to rescue Obama and Dem leaders, now seen as our victims. And we are now seen as the persecutors hurting not helping. Crazymaking rollercoaster rides. Emotional knot-making for all.
Talking to vastleft again about the insanity of the public option that did not really exist in terms of an actual, devised, workable system and structure and the confusion about it and the rhetorical gamesmanship about it helped block the sanity and humanitarianism of the expanded Medicare for all program idea and actual MOVEMENT with lots of sane people working hard. WTF? Whaaaa happened?
And the faux-pragmatic progressives HELPED the corporatists set humanity back with their political egos and THEIR profound lack of MORAL IMAGINATION and insane drive to punish those exhibiting theirs! And Obama and the political elite, the bubble people, won't acknowledge morality at all. It was amazing how they would not even acknowledge the sane, but non-corporate friendly plan. Their corporate handlers have made them such committed puppets and enemies of conscience and humanity. They won't acknowledge the people of conscience in this country. And they can count on the authoritarian following, the apathy, shallow celebrity titillation, craven media focus, etc. I mean Ray Bradbury (and so many others in their works through the years, Orwell, Heller, Vonnegut, Joseph Conrad, etc.) nailed it in Fahrenheit 451.
And here we are again. The faux-pragmatics calling out those of us to whom the idea of supporting and voting for "evil" nauseates -- and who are so healthily intuitive to do what is right, not fight the counter-intuition to vote for rat bastards for the greater good against the rabid rat bastards. But the messenger gets killed by those who believe the broken system is better than the specter of no system, of pissing off the specter of the looming monstrous punishing power brokers. Even though it is an evil, broken, machine that kills and punishes and is exploited by sociopathic power and greed-addicts. The Conscienceless.
I think of that Stockholm Syndrome phenomenon. When the hostages bond with their oppressors. Identify with them. Protect them.
People of conscience need to call out both the rat bastards and the rabid rat bastards. Not protect and enable the Dem rat bastards because they are not as rabid as Repubs and Teapartiers. Which makes them even worse. They have potential still to be rational, humane and sane. Or do they?
I keep trying to figure out how to get farther this time. I also keep trying to figure out why there isn't a bigger tent for the people of conscience. Why the health care single payer folks couldn't have a fire in their collective belly to end the illegal wars and support those people of conscience and vice versa. I mean, I am guessing they do, but how to channel that support formally and effectively? And the climate change folk, and the women's rights folk.
There are so many fresh and not so fresh any more hells ... and we of course can not be fighting on every front. But we need each other collectively. Because so many of us get the travesty to humanity collectively on all of these fronts. But we need to form that effective and loud critical mass.
A lot of small choirs of conscience. How do we rally those with conscience into a focused voice? There is the theory of the 100 monkeys. Once the hundredth monkey gets the message of truth and reality, the entire monkey nation gets it. With Vietnam I think the hundredth monkey was actually Walter Cronkite. When he got it (being in the media helped for sure) the Vietnam War, so late in the game with so much devastation, lost traction. Though some never got it and came back with a vengeance as insane neocons. Cheney, Rumsfeld, et al. Power mad.
We have a window of opportunity here in the next six is it weeks. I hoped we could make demands. But we have the colossal ego of Obama who only seems to know the art of hypocrisy and we piss him off now. Yeah, no drama Obama seems to only have strike back power when it comes to us. Go figure. He must protect his EGO on all of this and we will not enable his EGO. And Obama's vast enablers are fighting for his "brand" and their egos, too, I suppose. Can't admit to the con. Can't see the forest of humanity and are lost among the "team trees".
And then there are the insaniacs who are calling out an entirely different surreality which the media is dutifully filling the airwaves with as opposed to truth.
How can we do this so we don't replicate the silencing of our movement the way they silenced ... temporarily I know and good the Mad as Hell Docs are out again ... our single payer movement? How can we work even smarter this time, or do we just show up for truth and incrementally our ranks grow and with patience and serenity trust the truth will out but not according to our emotional clocks? The fight is huge for justice, and humanity being what it is ...
Pisses me off, though, the rat bastards and rabid rat bastards get another round of devastation of this country and the people of the world, their momentum keeps on keeping on! We're expected to eat the proverbial shit and smile? Or not. They are so remote from us to even care or notice us seriously. Only at election time do they wake up for a few seconds that we even exist. Forever grabbing and spending our tax dollars, mind you, but very rarely seriously representing our needs and our collective will. Just a little pr spin at election time and back to the amoral trough.
How can we hold our ground mostly from those we thought were our brother and sister progressives, but those now desperately trying to make people of conscience surrender their consciences and protect the toxic system, the US anti-empathy machine, make us STFU and surrender our wills? They are our enemy even more than the rat bastards and the rabid rat bastards, because they ambush and disappoint and confuse. The "Good Germans" of America we didn't assume would be. We illuminate their cowardism and denial to a great degree, threaten their collective ego perspective, and that pisses them off.
We need to brainstorm fast. We are not swilling rancid kool-aid here in terms of Obama and Dems. We need to make a plan. We have powerful enemies. With money. With power. With tv, press and radio. And yet "the emperor has no clothes." How can we get people to trust and not doubt what is before their own eyes. Has been for so very long. What is on those thousands of Wikileaks documents, say. How do we get people to finally get through the five stages of Obama grief to acceptance and SANITY????
What is the tipping point in what Maddow calls this "ethical freakshow of a universe"?
Coyotecreek, lambert, some of us see a NOTA movement (I had to google that word at first when it was presented in a comment to a recent blog I did -- "none of the above" ...h/t lambert, vastydeep, coyotecreek!!!) -- I got chills when I saw what it meant cuz I could easily visualize it as an imminent and growing grassroots movement, I visualized it on a vastleft T shirt, even), to give a place to rally these voices. We need a structure. It is a neck-sticking-out stance, too. Ripe for demonization. Letsgetitdone has written extensively about organizing a bloc of protesting voters. Hmmmmmm. We need to brainstorm.
Can we frame it so it includes the Greens or rogue and real liberal Dem legacy party people? How can we frame it? I have been chewing on it for a few days. Wanting to link up with some corrente people like coyotecreek (which we have done and will continue) and the vital and masterful lambert, juliawilliams (whose Green campaign we can maybe help with this), letsgetitdone, vastleft, Hugh, jawbone, madamab and others ... those who might be willing to throw in their profound talents to brainstorm a system. I told coyotecreek I would get back to her soon and I will. But this blog started out as a comment to lambert's Susie Madrak blog but kept growing.
So many of us are hearing the call for people of conscience to act!!!
And there is a lot of percolating anger on a lot of sites.
God, am late for work. Gotta run. Forgive typos and bad grammar!