Friday Night Sex Blogging
So my gf du jour won't be by until Sunday, and I'm stuck with a Working Friday Night anyway, due to...well, that doesn't matter. But I was reading one of Corrente's fabulous blogroll links, and the author was talking about the perils of dating online as an older woman. I guess that's me too, now! I'm a bit of an, um, well, [fill in your grandmother's favorite naughty word for bad grrls here]. Just out of silliness and curiosity, what dating sites do you use, and why?
Gay websites I frequent have regular amusing and almost-Serious posts about how online dating has changed the Gay Scene. And it has! As I said to a friend recently, "Bars are for dancing and drinking now, it's great!" The pick-up pressure really is off, for the most part. I don't know if it's the same at straight bars, but from what I can tell of the popularity of all the newest SN technologies, I can't believe at least some aspects aren't different today.
What fascinates me in particular is the way in which the experience is different by gender. Not (just) orientation, but gender. It's almost like the same dating site exists to serve two different worlds: one for male-identifying folk, and one for wimmin, who survey each other's worlds (or their own) with a totally different "gaze." Sometimes, that completely works, and sometimes, it leads to grumbling, "X never comes here and a Y like me will never have a chance" or "Gosh there are too many options to choose from" and other extremes. It seems to me the whole landscape of "dating" (does that word even work anymore? do the Kidz have another?) is utterly changed as a result.
My favorite OD story: so this bitch broke up with me, after cheating on me (not that I cared about that) and lying to me (that really made me mad). I went online, put up an ad that said, "I need to Get Some, Tonight. Who's ready" and I had something like 150 responses in 2 hours. I laughed and laughed at all the different answers, eventually choosing a totally anal (heh) accountant from the fray. And was satisfied! I've also made lifelong friends via the net, including a trans/bi/transition person who is now a member of my Family, despite our lack of common blood, and some really, really scary one night stand folk who taught me that even I don't know every kink that is out there. I'm not much for the LTR type thing, but I'd love to hear your success/failure/heartbreak/ stories, which have led to any kind of "relationship." Love Hurts, but it's still free, yo. Also: people who don't use online services to meet people, tell me how online dating has changed your scene, if at all.